The trip with a view.

Man… I just woke up feeling so damn grateful! I got home last night singing praises because of how awesome he truly is. I went into that hospital as calm as can be. Yes, our procedure was serious and urgent. But as I walked those halls I got a chance to take a quick glimpse into a couple of rooms. I see little babies being pumped. Hooked up to so many machines. I see kids feeling so sad and hopeless because they’ve been there so long with no end in sight. I see teenagers confined to their rooms because of serious contamination issues. Mothers sleeping in cribs. Fathers making breakfast in a tiny kitchen that they now call home. I realize that even though I was there for what seems like forever, there are some that will remain way longer. I’ve heard conversations about the financial burden. I’ve seen the tears of parents in despair and how hard nurses try to help patients feel comfortable. It’s a whole different world inside those walls.

As I complain about the overly healthy food I realize that there are very sick individuals whose very life and nourishment require nothing but the healthiest food. And I was able to appreciate the fact that even though it’s healthy they made it kid-friendly, with choices like chicken fingers, Mac n cheese, even some pizza and whole lots of dessert.

To the volunteers who devote their time to helping parents and patients. Whether it’s music therapy for a cranky toddler or a child life specialist who watches your kid so you can talk to the doctors or even the family resource center who puts on free massages and yoga. Yes, massage, yoga, even Zumba. And get this, they offer free parking passes to income eligible family. You do pay a service fee of $5 if you do valet but that’s beyond fair.

To the patient who wants to make the nurses life a living hell, please don’t. They are human just like you. No, they don’t get pleasure out of coming into your room at 3 in the morning to do your vitals. They are simply trying to do their job. Check with your doc if you feel Checking every 4 hours is not necessary and do not try to take it out on your nurse. They work long hours dealing with people going through many different things. Some become friends. They quickly fall in love with a patient only to never hear or see from them again. They are the ones helping you to take a bath or getting you new blankets. Appreciate and say thank you. Don’t forget your manners because you are going through a lot. Many are too.

And to the Mom that thinks it’s oh so necessary to yell at the staff because they aren’t going “fast” enough, hear me out, stop, breathe, reconsider. We all have the same goal, to get out and get on with our lives. Yelling doesn’t speed that up, trust me.

If you can volunteer or donate to a local hospital near you please do so. Even if that means writing cute little encouraging notes to the nurses and doctors. A little thoughtfulness goes a very long way. Be blessed and keep sweet.

My life is in your hands

My life is in your hands…

On my way to work, this song popped up in my heart. Side note: I get lots of my inspirations and revelations through music and quotes. I always try to find the underlying message. So, as I sat there listening and giving in to this song. Just in a state of worship and gratefulness. The words spoke to me so clearly “with Jesus I can make it, with him I know I can stand.” “No matter what may come my way, My life is in his hands.”

Just a week ago. Not even, a couple days to be exact. I felt like giving up. Everything around me was crumbling down. At least that’s how I saw it. As humans when things don’t go our way we immediately start to lose faith. We start doubting and questioning God. It’s normal to worry and panic long as don’t give in to it. Remember that life and death lie in the power of your tongue. So you better start speaking life over death and victory over defeat or you will reap what you put out.

Anyways, back to this. So, in my world, nothing was working. I hated my job. My passion had gone and I’ve been searching for a new one but to no avail. I had promised myself two things in the work field; never work for a paycheck and always work from the heart. So when I tell you I was miserable and uncomfortable in my own skin that would be an understatement. And you know how people always say that God makes you uncomfortable when he wants you to grow/ change? Mmmm. Anyways, I’ve searched my fingers off. God himself has been closing all the doors. I didn’t understand why and it was honestly starting to get on my nerves. I’m naturally a doer so if I don’t like or agree with something I’m going to do something about it. So that’s what I was doing. But who said God wanted me to do anything? Did I ask him? Not really. I just assumed I was supposed to. You know, free will and all. Yeah, well that wasn’t working at all. Being a single mom I couldn’t just quit. I wish I could. The bills need to be paid so I had to keep on working. Let me take this opportunity to give a big shout out to all you hard working men and women who show up day to day and do what needs to be done. The discipline it takes is tremendous. I see you, I feel you, I respect you!

Okay, so, it is now Thursday. I just got a call from a job I interviewed with over 3 weeks ago. At this point, I had contacted them numerous times with no response so imagine my surprise. The message said if I was still interested in the position I was to give them a call back with my expected start date. I was speechless.

But let me back up to earlier that morning so you get the full picture. I woke up very frustrated. I had no desire to go to work. I was simply doing it because I had no choice. I woke up that morning and I said angrily to God “if you care at all to help me that would be cool, if not it’s okay but I’m done trying to figure it out. ” And on that note, I got ready and left. I had an okay day. So after work when I heard that message I was baffled. Let me translate what happened. I decided to leave it alone and I invited God in instead. Didn’t sound like it because I was humming hymns and quoting scriptures, but trust me when I tell you that when we get desperate with God and submit, angrily or not. He hears he knows, he understands and he will step in.

I went home and I returned the call. I told them I could start the following Monday. The guy said that may be too soon, but he will check with his wife. Two hours later he called me back to say his wife approved and would love it if I could start Monday. Fast forward 4 days later I realize how mysterious God is. He knew very well I was at my breaking point. But why did he take so long?? Because that’s how long it took me to surrender. But when they say those who sow in tears will reap in joy. That is the whole truth. Let me tell you about the new job.

It is closer to me. Literally five minutes away from my home and my daughter’s daycare. I would earn $4 more than what I was getting, and the hours and flexibility was unmatched. The staff is like family. The atmosphere is relaxed and positive. There are many other benefits I could list but I’ll stop there to say this. Sometimes we have to go through some bad so we can appreciate and recognize the blessings that are to come. Every day I  go to work in awe and they may not understand why. But when you have got your soul sucked out of you and you get an overflow in blessing you better be grateful. Just don’t wait until you are about to lose your mind before you surrender it to him. Don’t be like me. He cares and he desperately wants to help you.

Now… Listen to the lyrics again from a renewed perspective and feel free to check out the complete song below.  Don’t be afraid to share your very own testimony below. Be blessed.. Until next time.

When all your friends and loved ones are nowhere to be found remember there’s a friend in Jesus that will wipe your tears away.. all you have to do is lift your hands and say lord I know that I can make it. I know that I can stand. No matter WHAT may come my way. My life is in your hands.

Link to the song.

Waiting patiently. Or somewhat close.

This one I’m going to jump right into.. As women, we tend to struggle a lot in this area. most time when we find ourselves into a new relationship we are usually the first one to figure out the direction in which it is headed. This can be credited to our amaaazzzzing woman’s intuition. Yayyy us!!! This can be a good thing. However, sometimes we might be jumping the gun just a tad bit early and this is where impatience breathes in. This can quickly become problematic for numerous reasons.

For one, we start to treat the person differently for something they haven’t even done. mmmm. Two, it robs the relationship of its current joy and spontaneity. And three, it creates false hope and unrealistic expectations.  Dramatic gasp. 

Women are emotional creatures by nature. Most of what we do stems from our moods and how we are feeling. The way we feel directly affects the people around us. And if we are not careful we can start to act in a manner that is not attractive to our partners. As a result, this may delay the direction of said relationship as well as change it altogether. So, now you are upset because you expected him to propose in a couple of months and he didn’t because you have been acting up lately and he believes that something has changed. Men do NOT think like us. He will NOT assume you are upset because he did not propose like YOU were expecting him to.  And now you are even more upset. You start to ASSUME he doesn’t love you and you start to question everything he has ever said or done and guess what? ! Resentment starts to creep in. See how crazy that can get? now before it gets to all that let me tell you what you can do instead

  • Go with the flow of your realationship. Yes, I spelled that incorrectly on purpose. When we say the word relationship we need to make sure we are being real. This means having realistic expectations of ourselves and others. Many times the people we are dating need time to learn how to share their space, their thoughts, and their emotions with someone new. And we need that time as well. Forcing them to move at a pace that is not comfortable for them is a big no-no.
  • Don’t overshare. I say this very heavily. What I realize is that often times we are okay with what we have until of course someone else tries to convince us otherwise. Yes, your bestie knows every mark on your body as well as how often you poop. However, an intimate relationship should be only between the people involved. No one else needs to know all the details.
  • Don’t be fooled by social media or the internet. This one might the hardest for many. simply because we are easily influenced whether we know it or not. Sometimes we start feeling differently about something and if we were able to check our subconscious we would be able to see exactly where it stems from. Unfortunately, we are not so lucky so we just have to be cautious instead. Our moods can quickly change just from looking at a meme, a post your friend made. Even songs, movies, and books can affect our perspective. Which bring me to my next point.
  • Be very careful about where you get your relationship advice. Not everyone wants to see you happy. We are humans. We get jealous and we are not always honest. It is just that simple. We also do not think or feel the same way about others. Your friend might not like the person you are interested in and that’s ok they are not dating them, you are. And don’t try to convince yourself otherwise accept it and move on.
  • Last, but not least. COMMUNICATE. This is so important and so underutilized. If you decide to ignore everything I’ve mentioned up until this point, that ok. There is nothing that effective communication cannot resolve. and often times if we just communicate openly to our partner things would get resolved a lot faster. Just do it! all day every day. Talk their ears off. Let them know how you are feeling and stop all these crazy assumptions. It is unhealthy.

That is all I have for you today, so, until next time. Keep being you. Be kind. Use nice words and be goofy.  Life is too important to be taken seriously.