Still there..

We wake up and everything feels so normal to some that we sometimes forget the chaos that is currently in the world. There are some who are still able to go to work because they have “essential jobs. Some daycare are still open and many are still able to go outside for a walk and even to the grocery store without any issues. We take the precautionary measures we hear are necessary but sometimes we ask ourselves if this is really necessary. Everything seems normal, at least on our end. Everyone is healthy and no one you know is directly affected. So, you start to think maybe it’s not so bad. “What’s the worse thing that can happen?” You ask yourself. You start to get less and less cautious thinking you’ve got this under control. But let me stop you right there!

DO NOT think because your life may still be normal right now mean it will remain that way without being careful. DO NOT think because no one you know is directing affected right now mean thousands are not currently suffering. Everything was normal for them too just before their lives were abruptly changed. DO NOT take your peace for granted and risk your loved ones getting exposed. Health can change in the blink of an eye. DO wash your hands, DO sanitized and clean frequently. STILL take your vitamins. Stay home unless you absolutely need to go outside. DO keep your kids home even if they are driving you crazy. It’s better for them to do that than for you to watch them fight for their lives.

This virus is SERIOUS. It can KILL. Don’t compare it to other diseases. Take it for what it is, a threat to us all. No one is exempt for certain. Do everything in your power to keep your family safe. It is better to be overly protective than not doing enough. Take this time to work on goals. Take up a new hobby. Start a new tradition. The more we try to enjoy our time, the quicker it will go by. Be safe. Take it easy and do your part to help health the world. ❤️

The pandemic

Let me tell you about the pending pandemic that’s about to strike our land. It’s been a few weeks now since the news fill our lives have started to change. Our jobs, future, savings, children’s education, and health are all at stake. Everything is changing in a daily basis. Sometimes hourly. And we don’t know for sure when it’ll all end. People are scared. Many are scrambling around trying to figure things out. Students and adults are homeless. Not because they are careless, but because some they were working on their future. Some had jobs that didn’t require them to have a “home” per say. They had dorm rooms and crash pads. Now with a sudden loss on job and financial stability many are displaced. In addition, the country is now facing a huge health pandemic. The healthcare system is collapsing before our very eyes. So many are sick and depending. So many of died with no funeral dates set. Birthday celebrations are on hold, weddings and graduations have been cancelled. Babies can’t get the check up they needs. Seniors are being abandoned. It’s a true test of community and unity.

Despite warnings stating there’s no need to panic on the news. Things seem rather different out here in the real world. People are scrambling to find and store food for the wave of disaster that’s about to it. Government organizations are closing down without notifying the public. People are in panic mode and they have every right to be. No one knows when schools will really be opened. Or when those who got laid off will return to work or if they will. We are on the brink of a recession. Talk about roaring twenties uh? Many are saying conspiracy theories. Some are stating biblical claims. No one knows for certain. But what we do know is this. Things are indefinitely changing. Nothing will ever be the safe again. Now is the time to start making different plans about the future. To unite as family and friends. To check on your neighbors and elderly. To be kind. Practice patience, manners, and to be grateful for the little things. Put your pride away and focus on survival. Don’t hoard, share. Exchange goods and services to help each other out. Be vigilant. Pay attention. Read, learn, and prepare. Take necessary precautions to keep yourself and your family safe and ok. And don’t ever think you know what’s coming next because no one does. All we can do is hope, pray, and love. ❤️

Sundazes

  • Sundays are such a blessing. It’s the start of a brand new week. It’s a day of complete and utter relaxation for some. And for others, it can be about work or getting ready for work. Whatever you use your Sundays for I hope that it is truly beneficial for you. Here are some simple tips to help you maximize your Sundays.
  • The first is, be strategic. Sundays generally set the tone for your upcoming week. In my house, this normally means finishing up any house chores that we won’t normally get time for during the busy work week. It also means taking a minute to breathe and regroup. Use your Sundays to find the most challenging thing about your week and get it taken care of if you can. For example, my husband and I alternate the days we pick up and drop off our 4-year-old from school. On the days he has to get her she also has dance class. So, I’ve pre-packed her dance bag, put her shoes and her clothes in an area he can find it. I also make snack options for her. I set out her outfit for the week and I get her hair combed so this way he will have fewer tasks to do and picking her up and caring for her can go smoothly for him. Another thing I do is I pick out outfits for myself as well and clean out and repack my work bag. We also do meal prep for the week. This is a great way for me and him to connect and to spend time together while getting things done. This also helps him be more aware of what is going on in the household and be in the know. We do our meal prep in bigger portions as well. We both eat a lot so we do enough that will last for two days and will allow me to take some to work for lunch. This is called saving time and money. Chi Ching! Doing these things will elevate so much anxiety from our week.

    My next tip is to be mindful and intentional. When I wake up in the mornings I make myself a list of things I need to get done for the day then I take a second the plan enough time around these things. This helps me to know exactly what my day will look like. Great organizing skill to have. During these tasks, I’ve also scheduled Mini downtime so that I’m doing more while stressing less. This will take a lot of trial on your part as there are things that you can’t always plan for. What I do is I give some tasks some extra time. For example, if I’m folding clothes that I know will normally be a 20-minute task Id schedule myself 30 for 45 minutes. If I finish before that then great. If my child happens to need a snack or needs me to play with her then I can without feeling like I need to rush off to the next thing.

    Bonus for parents. Let your littles help you. This is a good way for them to spend time with you while they also learn to be independent. You can make it a fun teachable moment. Yes, they might slow you down but it will benefit them in a great way. Talk about two birds with one stone.

    And my last tip is, relax!!! I cannot emphasize this enough. I know some might be thinking that they have a lot to do, and you might. BUT during all those tasks you need to find time to breathe and relax. If you don’t, then all of what you are doing will be for nothing. If you aren’t careful those very tasks can add more stress and anxiety to you than you realize. Remember, that we will always have tasks to complete. The trick is for us to complete those tasks in a way that helps us feel productive rather than overworked and drained.

    Take time to pamper yourself. Buy a facial mask for $2 at the store, and take a bubble bath. Read a book, or watch an episode of a show you like. The simplest of things can add so much value to your day. One thing I do is get ready for the day. Normally on Sundays I’ve decided in my mind I’ll be home all day so I don’t put any effort in combing my hair or even get out of Pajamas. God forbid someone stops by or I have to run to the store. I’ll get so annoyed because now I’ll have to put in extra time to get ready. Now, I wake up and I comb my hair and get dressed. Even if I have nowhere to be. This way, if I feel like taking a walk because I realize it’s a beautiful day I’m all set. This also gets me into the practice of getting up and getting ready which comes in handy during the week.

    Okay, I’ve taken enough of your time already. I truly hope these tips do help you. Please like and share if you find any of this helpful. Also, feel free to comment on ways YOU make the most of your Sunday. Looking forward to your response. Happy Sunday and be blessed.

    Strength

    Strength is such a misunderstood word. When we hear that word we think unbreakable, but to me, strength means something else. You can cry and still be strong. You can ask for help and still be strong. You can take a minute to let yourself fall apart and STILL be strong. In fact, I believe all those things are what make us stronger. Sometimes the things or the way we do things are no longer beneficial to us and it’s ok to acknowledge and change that. It’s ok to ask for help. It’s ok to not know. It’s ok to not have it all figured out. Strength comes in many forms. And doing the things that don’t necessarily seem strong in other’s eyes are the very things that make you stronger and better in your own life.

    So, today if you need a little more strength look deep within and I bet you’ll realize that you are way stronger than you thought you were. Happy hump day beautiful people. Only 2 workdays to go! ✊🏽💪🏼

    Peace

    Good morning beautiful people. As the holiday draws closer the word anxiety seems to be the list. Anxiety from many different things such as work, travels, providing for our family, health. Etc. Whatever it is that you got you worried try not to stress. Today’s reminder to you all is to peace.

    Peace to trust that everything will work out ok. Peace to know you are doing your best in whatever situation you are in and that is enough. An anxious mind and a worried heart bring nothing but frustration and chaos. So, as we set the tone in our households and at work let us first set it in our minds and our hearts by giving ourselves some much-needed peace of mind.

    You can’t give what you don’t have and the people we encounter on the daily draw from our energy. Let us radiate nothing but good vibes and positive thoughts. Have a good day y’all. Be blessed and stress less.

    Don’t give up!

    I stood in the kitchen fixing my morning breakfast and suddenly the words to this song that I LOVE popped up in my mind. For those who don’t know me, music speaks volumes to my soul. Its how I get my inspiration. If you ever want to know what mood I’m in just pay attention to what I’m listening to. Anyways, as the lyrics play out in my mind my purpose instantly became clear. Now I don’t know about anybody else.. but as for me. I’ve already decided that 2020 is going to be my year. Radical changes are going to happen in MY life because I plan on making them happen. I had some plans that I’ve already started working on in 2019 that I’m planning on finishing in 2020. I call it vision 2020 🙌🏾😍
    The reason I’m so hyped about this song is this. I’ve been trying to rearrange some stuff around to fit my dreams into my life. Because it came clear to be in 2019 that I have to be the one to create the life I want to live. And as a woman, a mother, an employee, and now a wife. My roles and responsibilities are tremendously high. And it can be hard at times to keep those dreams alive and act on them. However, I’ve decided that this year I’m going to make time to have my dreams come to life. Because my dreams are not just about me. They are about my daughter, my nieces, my nephews, my sisters, my friends, and everyone who I come in contact with. They are a legacy waiting to be birth. And it’s time I birth them. This post isn’t me bragging about my plans. This post is me challenging EVERYONE reading this to do the same. BIRTH your dreams. Make time to fulfill your calling. You never know who might be watching you and following in your footsteps. Make 2020 be YOUR vision year also!!! You can do it!!! Go back to school, lose the weight, start that new job, open your business, write a book. Whatever plans you had on the back burner, bring them forward, Now!!!! 🗣🗣🗣
    Now I’m going to tag some of my go-getters. And y’all can tag your go-getters. Let’s end 2019 with lots of hope and let’s own 2020!!
    Before I go let me share these lyrics with y’all cause I feel like they the bomb. Enjoy! And be blessed!! 🤗
    “Visions that can change the world
    Trapped inside an ordinary girl
    She looks just like me
    Too afraid to dream out loud
    … And though it’s set for your idea
    It won’t make sense to everybody
    You need courage now
    If you’re going to persevere
    … To fulfill your divine purpose
    You’ve gotta answer when you’re called
    So don’t be afraid to face the world
    Against all odds
    … Keep the dream alive don’t let it die if something deep inside
    Keeps inspiring you to try, don’t stop
    And never give up; don’t ever give up on you
    Don’t give up”
    Yolanda Adams never_give_up✊🏽

    Hold up ✋🏽 wait a minute 🚫

    Excuse me let me brag a minute on God!!! for about a year now I’ve been STRUGGLING at my job. And I mean STRUGGLE. Don’t get me wrong, I do what I need to do and I’m pretty good at my job. At least so I’ve been told. However, I don’t FEEEL IT! A little background on me. I do stuff from the heart. If it’s not fulfilling to my soul and my spirit I don’t care to do it. Anyways, I found myself in the field that I am in through God! And I say this because I would have not given it a second thought. I had a one-track mind to Clinical Psychology until God gave me a detour. More on that another time. Anyways, my first year in this field, ABA, was good. And for those who don’t know what ABA means it means Applied Behavior Analysis. I do one on one therapy sessions with children on the Autism spectrum. This means I deal with a lot of maladaptive or problematic behaviors that impede learning or everyday task. I deal with things like kicking, screaming, spitting, biting, headbanging, etc on a daily basis. And if you have never dealt with any of this, let me be the first to tell you it can be physically and emotionally exhausting.

    Currently, I’m two years in approaching the 3rd and I’ve been completely checked out. I’ve been doing it and doing a good job. But have not been FEELING it! The joy and spark I once had id now gone. My heart has not been in it. And if there is one thing I pride myself on is fulfillment. If my heart is not involved then my passion and drive to do something is non existent. I have lost my sense of purpose and have been on cruise control this entire year. I have been experiencing quite a bit of turbulence but it never occurred to me to pull over and check the engine light of my heart until now. And had I not pull over I would have never realized I was running on E this entire time. Luckily for me, Jesus himself was at my pit stop and gave me a beautiful reminder of just how great and wonderful he is. And no matter how far we drift he is ALWAYS willing to meet us wherever and whenever we need him. Let me explain to you just how he showed up and showed out for me.

    I was at work in my office with my morning client. He seems to be having a rough day. He’s been having a bit of a rough time for a couple of weeks now and my supervisor and I have been brainstorming ideas back and forth on how best to handle this. Today out of nowhere my perspective just SHIFTED. Ideas started to flow to me. My anxiety about the situation became so light to the point of nonexistent. I looked out my office window at the sky and allowed the brightness of it to radiate in my soul. And that’s when I realize that I haven’t just checked out in my job. But I checked out in every area of my life.

    See, a year ago I started this journey. It’s titled “my year off from God” bold uh? Yeah. And before you start to judge let me just stop you and tell you this. It is MY journey. I had questions and I needed answers. Often times we have doubts and questions and are too afraid to find out. Well, I wanted to really test my faith so I decided to live life a year without totally depending on God and see what would happen. As a result, I prayed less, seldom read my bible and attend church. My relationship with him was not as strong. And life taught me all the lessons it wanted to. Want to know what I found out? That my joy, my happiness, my strength, my resilience, and my peace ALL comes from HIM. I am ABSOLUTELY NOTHING without his grace and mercy. The peace that surpasses all understanding only comes when I’m close to him. And when I am not I am nothing but an ordinary girl. And not a nice one at that. I was grumpy, I was mean and selfish. But with him, I am so much more. I am considerate, gentle, kind, loving, and pleasant to be around.

    As I stood in my office. I started to look at my client differently. My mindset instantly shifted from ”listen to me and do as I say” to ”how best can I help you understand?” I was suddenly more patient and understanding. And I remembered the reason I stayed in this field is to help others the way he’s been helping me. To extend the same grace, love, forgiveness, patience, and compassion he was giving me all these years. My gratitude immediately returned. I felt blessed to be able to influence and change the lives of these individuals I came across. I felt like a vessel once again. And that’s when I knew my year off was completed.

    Back track to few weeks when I had started praying and reading my Bible. And it was a little under two days ago I woke up with a task. I felt burdened. I got up and I prayed. I prayed for the things that were on my heart at the time. And I also prayed for things I knew not about. That prayer allowed him to fix all the things I never thought to think about like my job, my clients, my ways, my perspective. And that is the kind of God we serve. He answers your desires and then some. So, today I leave you with this. Trust in him with all YOUR heart and lean NOT to your own understanding because at any given time he might stop by with a grand surprise that will leave you in pure bliss.

    Resilient or not??

    Resilience. What sets us apart? The great debate between nature vs nature has summed it all up under two umbrellas. But… what if there are factors we have yet to consider? Factors that should not be summed up as one but explored as individual factors. Factors such as beliefs, mindset, and willpower. Maybe it’s not a nature vs nature debate. Maybe, it’s factors, age, maturity, and perspective. Maybe it’s what we want and how hard we are willing to fight for it. Maybe we are made differently, obviously. Our DNS’s are different. We experience the world differently. We are raised and taught differently. Our circumstances are different, our reactions are different. They are individualized according to who we are. So why is it that we sum up the most important if questions with just two answers, when the answer itself changes, varies, and is tricky. Are we taught resilience? Do we grow into it? Are we born predisposed? Absolutely! But that’s not enough. Some of us do learn, and some never do. But why? What makes it so hard. Is life more unfair to some? Or is it simply how we see and experience it that shapes the outcome? I believe so. I think mindset and will power are two of the most important qualities needed for resilience. But how do we get them? As we grow. As we experience. As we live. As we do. And coping skills also play a huge part. We learn to cope in different ways. Some people write, some people sing. Some of us smoke, drink, or simply ignore. None of which is right or wrong only said individual can determine what works and what doesn’t. It becomes right or wrong if it’s not working and is actually causing said person more harm than good. Resilience is tricky. And it changes. We may even call it different things. But truth be told, we are all resilient in different ways. Some just find it sooner than others and some have a little more than others according to their circumstances. So, the next time you are feeling a little defeated and you think “man I wish I was as resilient as that person” just look yourself in the eye and say “damn it I am”. You got this! You can overcome and you will. Think back to a time when you were a complete badass and own that feeling. You’ll be just fine, I promise! Dig deep, believe, and get it done. I believe in you!

    Master reset

    Time. The one thing we can’t seem to get enough of. Yet we never seem to know how to make the most of. Timing, the teaser of it all. It shows up with unexpected things like pain, regret, doubts, and a bunch of what ifs. We never seem to know if we are getting it right or not. We go with the flow as best as we can. Until the flow stops and we are forced to reconsider. To question, to try again. And Dear Ole Time seems to always be the center of it all. Our dreams and life goals are set on a time schedule of when we think we ought to accomplish them. But what when Dear Ole Time says otherwise? Do we scramble around in panic mode? Do we question our worth, our effort, and all our other accomplishments? What if the thing you wanted the most don’t show up when you expected it to? Did Dear Ole Mister Time rob you once more?

    The answer is no! Things rarely go accordingly to plan. Life is tricky and it’s constantly changing. As players in this game adaptability will be our greatest friend. We have to learn to let go and stop getting stuck on how we believe things ought to be. We are no master of time, that is not our job. We can set dreams, make goals, and work towards them. But never ever get bent out of shape if they start to change. If the timing is haywire then just try to keep up. Don’t question all you’ve done. You worked extremely hard to get where you are and that was no easy feat. The timing of it all doesn’t seem to pan out accordingly, but that doesn’t mean you have to call it off entirely. Sometimes we just need to take a minute to reset, reevaluate, and reflect on what is to come. Because sometimes Mister Timing has something far more exciting waiting for you. ❤️

    What if??

    Do you know what it’s like to have a song on replay for days at a time because the lyrics resonate so deep in your soul? Or trying to convince yourself that’s it’s no longer worth the pain to put yourself out there. To believe that not everyone was not meant to find someone. Mmmm well, what if they weren’t? What if I tell you that not everyone will find someone? What if I tell you that the only person you truly need is yourself and self-love is the purest and most desired? Sounds cliche I know. But really it is as simple and straight forward as that. The sad part is, only a few have truly grasped the concept of self-love. Only some find real happiness in spending quality time trying to figure out who they truly are. And not very many know what they really want or is bold enough to demand or seek it. Just think how different the world would be if women were less self-conscious and men weren’t expected to show real genuine emotions. If gender roles, stereotypes and double standards were nothing but a thing of the past. If society didn’t try to sell us on what exactly an appropriate and happy lifestyle is. Now I’m not saying we don’t need general rules like stop light and brakes. Don’t get too crazy now. I’m saying if people weren’t sold into these lies and illusions about how to live THIER lives then the world would be a much better place.