I got the most interesting email yesterday that stated:” men need advice too.” Fellas, this one is for you.

First off, love your women. LOVE and adore them! Give them no room to even the second guess how you feel. Shower them in adoration. If you want her to respect you. To treat you like a king. To support you. You must first do the same to her. Men are meant to lead and protect their families. So if your women are not following, if she’s not looking at you like you are a snack then you are doing something wrong. And let me tell you a secret. Women not only love it when you look and dress good, but they also love it when you talk like a mature man. They love it when you lead and take charge in a way that makes sense. I know many of your lives have been so different. But you have a different person now and you cannot love and treat all women the same. Each is different. They are all attracted to different things, but a man with a mature appeal that cares and adores his woman never goes out of style.

Listen to her daily. Do little things to show her you care. Rub her feet, make her dinner, watch a chic flic with her. Simple things send a big message. That’s how her affection grows, her security, her respect for you. It sounds simple enough because it is. Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself. I promise you it’s a game-changer.

Take it from a woman. And check out these lyrics below!

“Let me let you in on a secret

How to treat a woman right

If you’re lookin’ for a place in her heart

It ain’t gonna happen overnight

First, you gotta learn to listen

To understand her deepest thoughts

She needs to know you can be friends

Before she’ll give you all she’s got

If you start from the heart

You’ll see love is gonna play its part

If you want to get to know her

Really get inside her mind

If you want to move in closer

Take it slow, yeah take your time

You must start from the heart and then

If you want to touch her

Really want to touch her

If you want to touch her, ask

A little physical attraction

Romantic, old-fashioned charm

And a lot of love and tenderness

Is gonna get you into her arms”

If You Wanna Touch Her, Ask!

Song by Shania Twain

Letting go

Letting go seems to be the hardest thing for us to do and for good reasons, sometimes. I was listening to this song and the lyrics said “we slipping to edge holding on to something we don’t need. All this delusion in our heads is gonna bring us to our knees” And I thought wow! That’s so true. How many times do we hold on to what if’s? Maybes? Potential that’s not even there? We make plans with people and we become so attached to them. They become apart of us. Our hopes, our dreams, our future. Our very existence now becomes an extension of this. So when it gets shattered or even a little bit threaten we freeze. We ponder, we hope, we try, but we never let go. We hold dare to the idea, the thought, the slightest bit of anything that somehow one day we can still have that. We cling to situations and people that are no longer serving us any good. We tell ourselves that we must fight and stick it out. We search the Internet for the perfect meme, perfect song, perfect movie series that relates best to us and we use that to build up our fantasies once more. We numb our gut feelings, we ignore the signs, we close our ears to the advice of those who can see things for what they really are and we think we got it all figured out when in truth all we need to do is let go. Try something new. Make a new dream, date a new person and start a new fantasy. Letting go is definitely hard. But letting go is something we all must learn to do more often. Whether it’s a bad idea that just shouldn’t be, a toxic relationship, a bad habit or an old car. Let it go and see what comes next. I promise you the scariest part is already over as soon as you do and you will immediately feel 10 times lighter and happier. Listen to some music, clear your head, take a walk, but do it anyways! Remember that your comfort zone is not your friend. Much love!!

Check out the song: James Bay, Let it go